CLEANUP: proxy: make the proxy lookup functions more user-friendly

CLEANUP: proxy: make the proxy lookup functions more user-friendly

First, findproxy() was renamed proxy_find_by_name() so that its explicit
that a name is required for the lookup. Second, we give this function
the ability to search for tables if needed. Third we now provide inline
wrappers to pass the appropriate PR_CAP_* flags and to explicitly look
up a frontend, backend or table.