Limit TCP pipelining per shared dispatch

Limit TCP pipelining per shared dispatch

Cap the number of in-flight queries on a single shared TCP dispatch.
When the limit is reached, the dispatch is removed from the hash
table so subsequent queries get a fresh connection.  The existing
dispatch continues serving its queries until they complete.

This bounds the blast radius of a connection drop: at most N queries
fail simultaneously instead of all queries to that server.

The default limit is 256.  It can be overridden for testing via
'named -T tcppipelining=N'.

(cherry picked from commit 385ceabe8f9d50c13f6781fbed79807ed77da69d)