- Fixed bug in :meth:`.Update.return_defaults` which would cause all

- Fixed bug in :meth:`.Update.return_defaults` which would cause all
insert-default holding columns not otherwise included in the SET
clause (such as primary key cols) to get rendered into the RETURNING
even though this is an UPDATE.

- Major fixes to the :paramref:`.Mapper.eager_defaults` flag, this
flag would not be honored correctly in the case that multiple
UPDATE statements were to be emitted, either as part of a flush
or a bulk update operation.  Additionally, RETURNING
would be emitted unnecessarily within update statements.

fixes #3609

(cherry picked from commit 0e4c4d7efc08d04c3c0ae960428b08ada37e4a91)