net/ipv6: Introduce payload_len helpers

net/ipv6: Introduce payload_len helpers

The next commits will transition away from using the hop-by-hop
extension header to encode packet length for BIG TCP. Add wrappers
around ip6->payload_len that return the actual value if it's non-zero,
and calculate it from skb->len if payload_len is set to zero (and a
symmetrical setter).

The new helpers are used wherever the surrounding code supports the
hop-by-hop jumbo header for BIG TCP IPv6, or the corresponding IPv4 code
uses skb_ip_totlen (e.g., in include/net/netfilter/nf_tables_ipv6.h).

No behavioral change in this commit.

Signed-off-by: Alice Mikityanska <alice@isovalent.com>
Acked-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>
Reviewed-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20260205133925.526371-2-alice.kernel@fastmail.im
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>