Limit the outgoing UDP send queue size

Limit the outgoing UDP send queue size

If the operating system UDP queue gets full and the outgoing UDP sending
starts to be delayed, BIND 9 could exhibit memory spikes as it tries to
enqueue all the outgoing UDP messages.  As those are not going to be
delivered anyway (as we argued when we stopped enlarging the operating
system send and receive buffers), try to send the UDP messages directly
using `uv_udp_try_send()` and if that fails, drop the outgoing UDP
message.