terminal-util: beef up show_menu()

terminal-util: beef up show_menu()

This modernizes the function a bit, and adds some bits:

1. whether to show numbers before entries is now optional, and if they
   are shown they are displayed in grey.

2. a common prefix can now be grayed out (later useful for completion
   support)

3. some variables have been named to clarify their purpose

4. the table display dimensions can now be auto-sized (by specifying
   SIZE_MAX and number of columns and column width)