Use baked lazyloading by default

Use baked lazyloading by default

The ``lazy="select"`` loader strategy now makes used of the
:class:`.BakedQuery` query caching system in all cases.  This
removes most overhead of generating a :class:`.Query` object and
running it into a :func:`.select` and then string SQL statement from
the process of lazy-loading related collections and objects.  The
"baked" lazy loader has also been improved such that it can now
cache in most cases where query load options are used.

Change-Id: Ic96792fffaa045ae9aa0a4657d6d29235d3efb85
Fixes: #3954