Fix risk of deadlock failure while dropping a partitioned index.

Fix risk of deadlock failure while dropping a partitioned index.

DROP INDEX needs to lock the index's table before the index itself,
else it will deadlock against ordinary queries that acquire the
relation locks in that order.  This is correctly mechanized for
plain indexes by RangeVarCallbackForDropRelation; but in the case of
a partitioned index, we neglected to lock the child tables in advance
of locking the child indexes.  We can fix that by traversing the
inheritance tree and acquiring the needed locks in RemoveRelations,
after we have acquired our locks on the parent partitioned table and
index.

While at it, do some refactoring to eliminate confusion between
the actual and expected relkind in RangeVarCallbackForDropRelation.
We can save a couple of syscache lookups too, by having that function
pass back info that RemoveRelations will need.

Back-patch to v11 where partitioned indexes were added.

Jimmy Yih, Gaurab Dey, Tom Lane

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