DEBUG: cleanup BUG_ON() configuration

DEBUG: cleanup BUG_ON() configuration

The BUG_ON() macro handling is complicated because it relies on a
conditional CRASH_NOW() macro whose definition depends on DEBUG_STRICT
and DEBUG_STRICT_NOCRASH. Let's rethink the whole thing differently,
and instead make the underlying _BUG_ON() macro take a crash argument
to decide whether to crash or not, as well as a prefix and a suffix for
the message, that will allow to distinguish between variants. Now the
suffix is set to a message explaining we don't crash when needed.
This also allows to get rid of the CRASH_NOW() macro and to define
much simpler new macros.