daemon: out-of-order processing for TCP

daemon: out-of-order processing for TCP

* daemon now processes messages over TCP stream
out-of-order and concurrently
* support for TCP_DEFER_ACCEPT
* support for TCP Fast-Open
* there are now deadlines for TCP for idle/slow
streams (to prevent slowloris; pruning)
* there is now per-request limit on timeouts
(each request is allowed 4 timeouts before bailing)
* faster request closing, unified retry/timeout timers
* rare race condition in timer closing fixed