GHA: disable autotools static libcurl in many jobs

GHA: disable autotools static libcurl in many jobs

To avoid building libcurl in both static and shared flavor by default.
It results in 1.5-2.x speed-up for the curl build step in most jobs.
Saving a total of 6-7 minutes. In the Cygwin job alone it saves 1-1.5m.

Also:
- enable static + shared in a Windows job to keep testing this combo.

Follow-up to ff958fc4b2c606d70de8dbfe083bee98896c0072 #20159

Closes #20167