- refactor pool a bit so that intent between ConnectionRecord/ConnectionFairy is...

- refactor pool a bit so that intent between ConnectionRecord/ConnectionFairy is clear;
make sure that the DBAPI connection passed to the reset-on-return events/dialect hooks
is also a "fairy", so that dictionaries like "info" are available.  [ticket:2770]
- rework the execution_options system so that the dialect is given the job of making
any immediate adjustments based on a set event.  move the "isolation level" logic to use
this new system.   Also work things out so that even engine-level execution options
can be used for things like isolation level; the dialect attaches a connect-event
handler in this case to handle the task.
- to support this new system as well as further extensibiltiy of execution options
add events engine_connect(), set_connection_execution_options(), set_engine_execution_options()