- rework the entire approach to #3076. As we need to catch all exceptions

- rework the entire approach to #3076. As we need to catch all exceptions
in all cases unconditionally, the number of use cases that go beyond what
dbapi_error() is expecting has gone too far for an 0.9 release.
Additionally, the number of things we'd like to track is really a lot
more than the five arguments here, and ExecutionContext is really not
suitable as totally public API for this.   So restore dbapi_error
to its old version, deprecate, and build out handle_error instead.
This is a lot more extensible and doesn't get in the way of anything
compatibility-wise.