MAJOR: backend: improve the connection reuse mechanism

MAJOR: backend: improve the connection reuse mechanism

Now instead of closing the existing connection attached to the
stream interface, we first check if the one we pick was attached to
another stream interface, in which case the connections are swapped
if possible (eg: if the current connection is not private). That way
the previous connection remains attached to an existing session and
significantly increases the chances of being reused.