ipvs: fix races around the conn_lfactor and svc_lfactor sysctl vars

ipvs: fix races around the conn_lfactor and svc_lfactor sysctl vars

Sashiko warns that the new sysctls vars can be changed
after the hash tables are destroyed and their respective
resizing works canceled, leading to mod_delayed_work()
being called for canceled works.

Solve this in different ways. conn_tab can be present even
without services and is destroyed only on netns exit, so use
disable_delayed_work_sync() to disable the work instead of
adding more synchronization mechanisms.

As for the svc_table, it is destroyed when the services
are deleted, so we must be sure that netns exit is not
called yet (the check for 'enable') and the work is
not canceled by checking all under same mutex lock.

Also, use WRITE_ONCE when updating the sysctl vars as we
already read them with READ_ONCE.

Link: https://sashiko.dev/#/patchset/20260410112352.23599-1-fw%40strlen.de
Fixes: 8d7de5477e47 ("ipvs: add conn_lfactor and svc_lfactor sysctl vars")
Signed-off-by: Julian Anastasov <ja@ssi.bg>
Signed-off-by: Pablo Neira Ayuso <pablo@netfilter.org>