udp: update sk_rmem_alloc before busylock acquisition

udp: update sk_rmem_alloc before busylock acquisition

Avoid piling too many producers on the busylock
by updating sk_rmem_alloc before busylock acquisition.

Signed-off-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Reviewed-by: David Ahern <dsahern@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Kuniyuki Iwashima <kuniyu@google.com>
Reviewed-by: Willem de Bruijn <willemb@google.com>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20250916160951.541279-7-edumazet@google.com
Reviewed-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Paolo Abeni <pabeni@redhat.com>