tree-wide: introduce new SOCKADDR_UN_LEN() macro, and use it everywhere

tree-wide: introduce new SOCKADDR_UN_LEN() macro, and use it everywhere

The macro determines the right length of a AF_UNIX "struct sockaddr_un" to pass to
connect() or bind(). It automatically figures out if the socket refers to an
abstract namespace socket, or a socket in the file system, and properly handles
the full length of the path field.

This macro is not only safer, but also simpler to use, than the usual
offsetof() + strlen() logic.