- :class:`.Query` doesn't support joins, subselects, or special

- :class:`.Query` doesn't support joins, subselects, or special
FROM clauses when using the :meth:`.Query.update` or
:meth:`.Query.delete` methods; instead of silently ignoring these
fields if methods like :meth:`.Query.join` or
:meth:`.Query.select_from` has been called, an error is raised.
In 0.9.10 this only emits a warning.
fixes #3349
- don't needlessly call _compile_context() and build up a
whole statement that we never need.  Construct QueryContext
as it's part of the event contract, but don't actually call upon
mapper attributes; use more direct systems of determining the
update or delete table.
- don't realy need _no_select_modifiers anymore