res_stasis: Add control ref to playback and recording structs.

res_stasis: Add control ref to playback and recording structs.

The stasis_app_playback and stasis_app_recording structs need to have a
struct stasis_app_control ref.  Other threads can get a reference to the
playback and recording structs from their respective global container.
These other threads can then use the control pointer they contain after
the control struct has gone.

* Add control ref to stasis_app_playback and stasis_app_recording structs.

With the refs added, the control command queue can now have a circular
control reference which will cause the control struct to never get
released if the control's command queue is not flushed when the channel
leaves the Stasis application.  Also the command queue needs better
protection from adding commands if the control->is_done flag is set.

* Flush the control command queue on exit.

ASTERISK-25882 #close

Change-Id: I3cf1fb59cbe6f50f20d9e35a2c07ac07d7f4320d