MINOR: debug: add a new DEBUG_FD build option

MINOR: debug: add a new DEBUG_FD build option

When DEBUG_FD is set at build time, we'll keep a counter of per-FD events
in the fdtab. This counter is reported in "show fd" even for closed FDs if
not zero. The purpose is to help spot situations where an apparently closed
FD continues to be reported in loops, or where some events are dismissed.