OPTIM: connection: disable receiving on disabled events when the run queue is too...

OPTIM: connection: disable receiving on disabled events when the run queue is too high

In order to save a lot on syscalls, we currently don't disable receiving
on a file descriptor anymore if its handler was already woken up. But if
the run queue is huge and the poller collects a lot of events, this causes
excess wakeups which take CPU time which is not used to flush these tasklets.
This patch simply considers the run queue size to decide whether or not to
stop receiving. Tests show that by stopping receiving when the run queue
reaches ~16 times its configured size, we can still hold maximal performance
in extreme situations like maxpollevents=20k for runqueue_depth=2, and still
totally avoid calling epoll_event under moderate load using default settings
on keep-alive connections.