[BUG] proxy: connection rate limiting was eating lots of CPU

[BUG] proxy: connection rate limiting was eating lots of CPU

The rate-limit feature relied on a timer to define how long a frontend
must remain idle. It was not considering the pending connections, so it
was almost always ready to be used again and only the accept's limit was
preventing new connections from coming in. By accounting for the pending
connection, we can compute a correct delay and effectively make the
frontend go idle for that (short) time.