[3.14] gh-73458: Fix logging.config.listen() on a host without an IPv4 address (GH...

[3.14] gh-73458: Fix logging.config.listen() on a host without an IPv4 address (GH-154491) (GH-154617)

The server is created in a thread which set the "ready" event only after a
successful start, so a failure to start left the caller waiting for that
event forever.  Set it also on failure.

The receiver always used AF_INET, which fails if the host has no IPv4
address, for example if "localhost" is only aliased to ::1.  Use the family
of the first resolved address in such case.

Also fixes gh-82076.
(cherry picked from commit 45a10f5d711ebe1bce9c6b93c10bbc5fe5bdf392)

Co-authored-by: Serhiy Storchaka <storchaka@gmail.com>
Co-authored-by: Claude Opus 4.8 (1M context) <noreply@anthropic.com>