raise for same param name in expanding + non expanding

raise for same param name in expanding + non expanding

An informative error is raised if two individual :class:`.BindParameter`
objects share the same name, yet one is used within an "expanding" context
(typically an IN expression) and the other is not; mixing the same name in
these two different styles of usage is not supported and typically the
``expanding=True`` parameter should be set on the parameters that are to
receive list values outside of IN expressions (where ``expanding`` is set
by default).

Fixes: #8018
Change-Id: Ie707f29680eea16b9e421af93560ac1958e11a54
(cherry picked from commit f9fccdeeb6749d10aeec458f1a549906d58ddad8)