ipvs: do not keep dest_dst after dest is removed

ipvs: do not keep dest_dst after dest is removed

Before now dest->dest_dst is not released when server is moved into
dest_trash list after removal. As result, we can keep dst/dev
references for long time without actively using them.

It is better to avoid walking the dest_trash list when
ip_vs_dst_event() receives dev events. So, make sure we do not
hold dev references in dest_trash list. As packets can be flying
while server is being removed, check the IP_VS_DEST_F_AVAILABLE
flag in slow path to ensure we do not save new dev references to
removed servers.

Signed-off-by: Julian Anastasov <ja@ssi.bg>
Signed-off-by: Florian Westphal <fw@strlen.de>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20260224205048.4718-5-fw@strlen.de
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>