Fix replica identity check for MERGE.

Fix replica identity check for MERGE.

When executing a MERGE, check that the target relation supports all
actions mentioned in the MERGE command. Specifically, check that it
has a REPLICA IDENTITY if it publishes updates or deletes and the
MERGE command contains update or delete actions. Failing to do this
can silently break replication.

Author: Zhijie Hou <houzj.fnst@fujitsu.com>
Reviewed-by: Ashutosh Bapat <ashutosh.bapat.oss@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Dean Rasheed <dean.a.rasheed@gmail.com>
Tested-by: Chao Li <li.evan.chao@gmail.com>
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/OS3PR01MB57180C87E43A679A730482DF94B62@OS3PR01MB5718.jpnprd01.prod.outlook.com
Backpatch-through: 15