net: avoid theoretical races with ref drain

net: avoid theoretical races with ref drain

Technically, it's illegal to take a ref on a netdev just because
we have a pointer on which we already hold a ref, with no other
protection. This is because our simple per-cpu refcount
implementation cannot atomically read the count.

Let's make sure we cancel outstanding work and never queue more
work for a device we know is dead. This way taking a ref on
a dev we know is on the netdev_work_list is always going to be safe.

Jiangshan Yi reports that the issues is caught by ref tracker infra
leading to a warning:
  WARNING: lib/ref_tracker.c:322 at ref_tracker_free
  WARNING: lib/ref_tracker.c:246 at ref_tracker_dir_exit

Reported-by: Jiangshan Yi <yijiangshan@kylinos.cn>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/20260731035135.3917308-2-yijiangshan@kylinos.cn
Fixes: 12c765be84d2 ("net: turn the rx_mode work into a generic netdev_work facility")
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20260806022821.2079945-1-kuba@kernel.org
Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>