fuse: add refcount to fuse_dev

fuse: add refcount to fuse_dev

This will make it possible to grab the fuse_dev and subsequently release
the file that it came from.

In the above case, fud->fc will be set to FUSE_DEV_FC_DISCONNECTED to
indicate that this is no longer a functional device.

When trying to assign an fc to such a disconnected fuse_dev, the fc is set
to the disconnected state.

Use atomic operations xchg() and cmpxchg() to prevent races.

Signed-off-by: Miklos Szeredi <mszeredi@redhat.com>