dbus-manager: limit the number of states/patterns per query (#41891)

Let's cap the number of states/patterns per query to something
reasonable, i.e. max 256 states and 4K patterns per query.

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Also, use the env assignments limit in a couple more places.

diff --cc src/core/dbus-manager.c
Simple merge

diff --cc src/core/manager.h
Simple merge