tool: change some fopen failures from warnings to errors

tool: change some fopen failures from warnings to errors

- Error on missing input file for --data, --data-binary,
  --data-urlencode, --header, --variable, --write-out.

Prior to this change if a user of the curl tool specified an input file
for one of the above options and that file could not be opened then it
would be treated as zero length data instead of an error. For example, a
POST using `--data @filenametypo` would cause a zero length POST which
is probably not what the user intended.

Closes https://github.com/curl/curl/pull/11677