selftests/bpf: Pass through build flags to bpftool and resolve_btfids

selftests/bpf: Pass through build flags to bpftool and resolve_btfids

EXTRA_* and SAN_* build flags were not correctly propagated to bpftool
and resolve_btids when building selftests/bpf. This led to various
build errors on attempt to build with SAN_CFLAGS="-fsanitize=address",
for example.

Fix the makefiles to address this:
  - Pass SAN_CFLAGS/SAN_LDFLAGS to bpftool and resolve_btfids build
  - Propagate EXTRA_LDFLAGS to resolve_btfids link command
  - Use pkg-config to detect zlib and zstd for resolve_btfids, similar
    libelf handling

Also check for ASAN flag in selftests/bpf/Makefile for convenience.

Signed-off-by: Ihor Solodrai <ihor.solodrai@linux.dev>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20260223190736.649171-7-ihor.solodrai@linux.dev
Signed-off-by: Alexei Starovoitov <ast@kernel.org>