Add configuration option to set send/recv buffers on the nm sockets

Add configuration option to set send/recv buffers on the nm sockets

This commit adds a new configuration option to set the receive and send
buffer sizes on the TCP and UDP netmgr sockets.  The default is `0`
which doesn't set any value and just uses the value set by the operating
system.

There's no magic value here - set it too small and the performance will
drop, set it too large, the buffers can fill-up with queries that have
already timeouted on the client side and nobody is interested for the
answer and this would just make the server clog up even more by making
it produce useless work.

The `netstat -su` can be used on POSIX systems to monitor the receive
and send buffer errors.