Convert sock->active to non-atomic variable, cleanup rchildren

Convert sock->active to non-atomic variable, cleanup rchildren

The last atomic_bool variable sock->active was converted to non-atomic
bool by properly handling the listening socket case where we were
checking parent socket instead of children sockets.

This is no longer necessary as we properly set the .active to false on
the children sockets.

Additionally, cleanup the .rchildren - the atomic variable was used for
mutex+condition to block until all children were listening, but that's
now being handled by a barrier.

Finally, just remove dead .self and .active_child_connections members of
the netmgr socket.