TLS: Avoid accessing non-atomic listener socket flags during HS

TLS: Avoid accessing non-atomic listener socket flags during HS

This commit ensures that the non-atomic flags inside a TLS listener
socket object (and associated worker) are accessed when doing
handshake for a connection only from within the context of the
dedicated thread, but not other worker threads.

The purpose of this commit is to avoid TSAN errors during
isc__nmsocket_closing() calls. It is a continuation of
4b5559cd8f41e67bf03e92d9d0338dee9d549b48.