Disassociate the SSL object from the cached SSL_SESSION

Disassociate the SSL object from the cached SSL_SESSION

When the SSL object was destroyed, it would invalidate all SSL_SESSION
objects including the cached, but not yet used, TLS session objects.

Properly disassociate the SSL object from the SSL_SESSION before we
store it in the TLS session cache, so we can later destroy it without
invalidating the cached TLS sessions.

Co-authored-by: Ondřej Surý <ondrej@isc.org>
Co-authored-by: Artem Boldariev <artem@isc.org>
Co-authored-by: Aram Sargsyan <aram@isc.org>
(cherry picked from commit c11b736e44a5f637eff9babcd65cc2958f52e7ce)