Give an 'options' parameter to tuple_delete/_update

Give an 'options' parameter to tuple_delete/_update

The tuple_insert() method already has an equivalent argument, so this
makes sense just on consistency grounds, for future growth.

table_delete() can immediately use it to carry the 'changingPart'
boolean; for table_update we don't have any options at present.

Author: Álvaro Herrera <alvherre@kurilemu.de>
Reviewed-by: Nathan Bossart <nathandbossart@gmail.com> (older version)
Reviewed-by: Zsolt Parragi <zsolt.parragi@percona.com>
Reviewed-by: Chao Li <li.evan.chao@gmail.com>
Reviewed-by: Antonin Houska <ah@cybertec.at>
Discussion: https://postgr.es/m/202603171606.kf6pmhscqbqz@alvherre.pgsql