Refactor the use of atomics in netmgr

Refactor the use of atomics in netmgr

Now that everything runs on their own loop and we don't cross the thread
boundaries (with few exceptions), most of the atomic_bool variables used
to track the socket state have been unatomicized because they are always
accessed from the matching thread.

The remaining few have been relaxed: a) the sock->active is now using
acquire/release memory ordering; b) the various global limits are now
using relaxed memory ordering - we don't really care about the
synchronization for those.