xprtrdma: Decouple req recycling from RPC completion

xprtrdma: Decouple req recycling from RPC completion

rl_kref formerly served two distinct lifetimes through a single
refcount: it gated when a Reply could wake its RPC task, and it
gated when an rpcrdma_req could return to its free pool. The
marshal path took the Send-side reference only when SGEs needed
DMA-unmap (sc_unmap_count > 0), which made a Send carrying only
pre-registered buffers an exception: the Reply handler dropped
rl_kref from 1 to 0 and freed the req while the HCA might still
be DMA-reading from its send buffer.

Give rl_kref a narrower job. The RPC layer takes one reference
when slot allocation hands a req out. rpcrdma_prepare_send_sges()
takes a Send-side reference unconditionally after WR preparation
succeeds. xprt_rdma_free_slot() and xprt_rdma_bc_free_rqst() drop
the RPC-layer reference; rpcrdma_sendctx_unmap() drops the
Send-side reference. The req returns to its free pool only after
both owners have signed off.

The existing kref_init(&req->rl_kref) call in
rpcrdma_prepare_send_sges() is removed. Initialization moves to
the slot-allocation paths (xprt_rdma_alloc_slot and
rpcrdma_bc_rqst_get), and the release callback re-arms rl_kref
before the req returns to a free pool. A re-init in the marshal
path would discard the RPC-layer reference that already exists
on entry.

Three invariants follow:

  - Any rpcrdma_req held by an rpc_rqst has rl_kref >= 1.
    xprt_rdma_alloc_slot(), rpcrdma_bc_rqst_get(), and the
    backlog-wake branch in xprt_rdma_alloc_slot() each kref_init
    rl_kref before publishing the req. Without this invariant,
    an RPC task that aborts between slot allocation and marshal
    (gss_refresh failure or signal during call_connect, for
    example) would drive xprt_release() ->
    xprt_rdma_free_slot() -> kref_put against a refcount of
    zero, saturating refcount_t and stranding the slot.

  - The Send-side reference is taken only after WR prep
    succeeds. A mapping failure in rpcrdma_prepare_send_sges()
    runs rpcrdma_sendctx_cancel(), which DMA-unmaps the sendctx
    and clears sc_req without touching rl_kref. The sendctx
    ring walks in rpcrdma_sendctx_put_locked() and
    rpcrdma_sendctxs_destroy() skip entries with sc_req == NULL,
    so a burst of -EIO marshal failures cannot hold reqs off
    rb_send_bufs.

  - The release callback re-arms rl_kref so the next consumer
    enters with the invariant satisfied.

Replies now complete the RPC directly. rpcrdma_reply_handler()
calls rpcrdma_complete_rqst() in place of kref_put on the
non-LocalInv branch. The LocalInv branch already completes the
RPC from frwr_unmap_async() and is unaffected.

Because Send-side references can now outlive RPC completion,
connection teardown drains sendctx entries whose unsignaled
Sends never had a later signaled completion to walk the ring.
rpcrdma_sendctxs_destroy() walks the active range and runs
rpcrdma_sendctx_unmap() on each entry with a non-NULL sc_req
before the request buffers are reset, and is moved ahead of
rpcrdma_reqs_reset() in rpcrdma_xprt_disconnect() so the reqs
are still in their pre-reset state when the Send-side refs are
released.

The drain creates a teardown-ordering hazard on the backchannel
path. With the new lifetime, releasing a bc_prealloc req from
rpcrdma_req_release() re-adds it to bc_pa_list. The disconnect
in xprt_rdma_destroy() runs after xprt_destroy_backchannel() has
already emptied bc_pa_list, so the drained reqs would otherwise
leak. xprt_rdma_destroy() now runs xprt_rdma_bc_destroy(xprt, 0)
a second time after the disconnect to reclaim them.

Fixes: 0ab115237025 ("xprtrdma: Wake RPCs directly in rpcrdma_wc_send path")
Signed-off-by: Chuck Lever <chuck.lever@oracle.com>
Signed-off-by: Anna Schumaker <anna.schumaker@hammerspace.com>