Replace internal memory calls with non-standard jemalloc API

Replace internal memory calls with non-standard jemalloc API

The jemalloc non-standard API fits nicely with our memory contexts, so
just rewrite the memory context internals to use the non-public API.

There's just one caveat - since we no longer track the size of the
allocation for isc_mem_allocate/isc_mem_free combination, we need to use
sallocx() to get real allocation size in both allocator and deallocator
because otherwise the sizes would not match.