lib: replace `getsock()` logic with pollsets

lib: replace `getsock()` logic with pollsets

`getsock()` calls operated on a global limit that could
not be configure beyond 16 sockets. This is no longer adequate
with the new happy eyeballing strategy.

Instead, do the following:
- make `struct easy_pollset` dynamic. Starting with
  a minimal room for two sockets, the very common case,
  allow it to grow on demand.
- replace all protocol handler getsock() calls with pollsets
  and a CURLcode to return failures
- add CURLcode return for all connection filter `adjust_pollset()`
  callbacks, since they too can now fail.
- use appropriately in multi.c and multi_ev.c
- fix unit2600 to trigger pollset growth

Closes #18164