don't invoke fromclause.c when creating an annotated

don't invoke fromclause.c when creating an annotated

The ``aliased()`` constructor calls upon ``__clause_element__()``,
which internally annotates a ``FromClause``, like a subquery.
This became expensive as ``AnnotatedFromClause`` has for
many years called upon ``element.c`` so that the full ``.c``
collection is transferred to the Annotated.

Taking this out proved to be challenging. A straight remove
seemed to not break any tests except for the one that
tested the exact condition.  Nevertheless this seemed
"spooky" so I instead moved the get of ``.c`` to be in a
memoized proxy method.   However, that then exposed
a recursion issue related to loader_criteria; so the
source of that behavior, which was an accidental behavioral
artifact, is now made into an explcicit option that
loader_criteria uses directly.

The accidental behavioral artifact in question is still
kind of strange since I was not able to fully trace out
how it works, but the end result is that fixing the
artifact to be "correct" causes loader_criteria, within
the particular test for #7491, creates a select/
subquery structure with a cycle in it, so compilation fails
with recursion overflow.
The "solution" is to cause the artifact to occur in this
case, which is that the ``AnnotatedFromClause`` will have a
different ``.c`` collection than its element, which is a
subquery.  It's not totally clear how a cycle is generated
when this is not done.

This is commit one of two, which goes through
some hoops to make essentially a one-line change.

The next commit will rework ColumnCollection to optimize
the corresponding_column() method significantly.

Fixes: #8796
Change-Id: Id58ae6554db62139462c11a8be7313a3677456ad