child-create: Add support for multiple key exchanges

child-create: Add support for multiple key exchanges

It also changes that payloads are built before installing the CHILD_SA
on the responder, that is, the KE payload is generated before keys are
derived, so that key_exchange_t::get_public_key() is called before
get_shared_secret(), or its internal equivalent, which could be relevant
for KE implementations that want to ensure that the key can't be
accessed again after the key derivation.